Intimate Partner Violence: Why Men Harm?


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For anyone who raises boys, this is a must-see video.

Marion Little explains factors related to the cause and prevention of sexualized violence, starting with early childhood experiences. Many male members of our society are conscientious and take a stand against violence. However, it is also the case statistically that violence (sexualized violence in particular) is most often committed by males.

Cultural messages that allow the objectification of women are often given to boys and young men. These messages, along with the “shutting down” of boys’ emotions, are a systemic challenge to the prevention of sexualized violence.

Early nurturing, including a compassionate understanding of the emotional experiences of boys, can encourage boys to relate honestly to each other and to girls. Boys and men can learn the self-soothing and conflict resolution skills to overcome the feelings of distress or frustration that can lead to acting out in a way that is harmful to others. People of all genders benefit by learning and practising self-empathy.

Marion Little, Adjunct Assistance Professor, Dispute Resolution Program, School of Public Administration, University of Victoria, BC, Canada, discusses the reasons contributing to Intimate Partner Abuse in our society.

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