In life, it isn't what happens to you that is most important -- it is how you make sense of the experience. Parents’ ability to make sense of what has happened to them is the best predictor of their child's ability to become securely attached. Dr. Siegel talks about the importance and the many benefits of securely attached children. It is a challenge for parents with unresolved trauma to raise a baby. They see the baby as themselves and feel the child's vulnerability. For example, it is essential for a parent who has experienced sexual abuse to get help to overcome this trauma. Parents who are able to reflect on their experiences, even negative ones, and make sense of them, can develop a secure attachment with their child.